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Powerless.
Mar. 2nd, 2006 09:15 amThe past few days, something exploded on the LJ momlessdaughter's community. And the barrage of responses made me feel like I was watching an old political debate on the Winter's Edge boards.
But, because of my experience with the board, I have amazingly realized that I have been trained to keep quiet lest I exacerbate the situation.
Basically, the community is for people (mostly girls, although there have been a few men) who have lost their mothers - albeit most have been to death, but there are some people who had a mother leave when they were little, or their mother is completely estranged since childhood, or from a messy divorce or people who only have a foster or adopted mother. Basically, the mother is completely gone from their lives.
This girl comes in, with a long intro post, telling her story. The short version of the story is that her mother cheated on her father with a family friend, and this girl is pissed off beyond belief and is almost sounding like she wants to disown her mother, and push her out of her life.
Now, while this is sad - many people responded and some were understanding and some were rude. These other girls were really hurt by her post, not only did this girl still have her mother, but the manner of her post was extremely immature. The style of her writing really sounded dramatic and Everything-Is-The-End-Of-The-World-Teenager. I am sure she didn't mean to belittle our situations, but she didn't take care with her words NOT to.
So there has been this icky back and forth, and there is nothing I could ever say that would be helpful. Besides, other community members have together, said things I would say. This girl isn't receptive, but it's probably because she is hurt, and some community members are having trouble letting this go away because they are hurt and want the girl to know that.
It's a vicious cycle, and it's been filled with nasty language. Sigh.
But, because of my experience with the board, I have amazingly realized that I have been trained to keep quiet lest I exacerbate the situation.
Basically, the community is for people (mostly girls, although there have been a few men) who have lost their mothers - albeit most have been to death, but there are some people who had a mother leave when they were little, or their mother is completely estranged since childhood, or from a messy divorce or people who only have a foster or adopted mother. Basically, the mother is completely gone from their lives.
This girl comes in, with a long intro post, telling her story. The short version of the story is that her mother cheated on her father with a family friend, and this girl is pissed off beyond belief and is almost sounding like she wants to disown her mother, and push her out of her life.
Now, while this is sad - many people responded and some were understanding and some were rude. These other girls were really hurt by her post, not only did this girl still have her mother, but the manner of her post was extremely immature. The style of her writing really sounded dramatic and Everything-Is-The-End-Of-The-World-Teenager. I am sure she didn't mean to belittle our situations, but she didn't take care with her words NOT to.
So there has been this icky back and forth, and there is nothing I could ever say that would be helpful. Besides, other community members have together, said things I would say. This girl isn't receptive, but it's probably because she is hurt, and some community members are having trouble letting this go away because they are hurt and want the girl to know that.
It's a vicious cycle, and it's been filled with nasty language. Sigh.
